BLOOD TIES- BY CHARLY BOY

        

     

   Article written by Charley Boy

       The other day I called a family meeting, in attendance was three of my daughters, two from the United states (Adaeze/Margaret) who have finished their master’s degree, looking for juicy employment, my eldest daughter Yvonne, who more or less runs my business. My first grandchild Olivia who is on vacation from school in Mauritius, my Mum, my last son Charles who runs his own fashion business and doesn't live with me, my younger brothers daughter Nancy waiting to move in with her husband and my wife Lady Di. A house full of women, hummm. The main crux of the meeting was reinforcing their sense of responsibility as long as they remain in my house and how we need to enhance our bounding and the love we share by doing things that promotes a united family. In short God blessed me with a good family.

      Family is something that we cannot do without, everyone existing originated from a family. The general expectation from family is love, help, togetherness. Family gives us a level of safety, whenever we are around them we feel safer. Family life is always stressful. It is difficult to keep your family together in a world where families are falling apart. Since my ‘Popsie’ passed on, it seems my responsibilities have quadrupled, as head of the family now, the load on my head is better imagined, but I carry it with pride. Kai! There is God.

     The stresses and storms of life tear some families apart and make others stronger. We can learn from other families that stay united what ingredients make strong, happy homes that withstand the storms of life. Not everyone gets what they expect out of family, sometimes some people are born into torture, hate, want, and despair, and they never understand what it is like to be loved by a family. Thank God my loving family built/nurtured the tremendous confidence I possess as a person, because I don learn never to send anybody.

Growing up as a child, no matter how stubborn or rebellious I was, I dreaded losing my family. It meant so much to me and still do. It remains a part of me, it tells of where I am coming from, who I am and what I probably stand for. Yes, Family Rocks. I realized earlier in life that nothing is worth losing my family for.

When I grew older, I realized that family wasn’t just those that came out from the same womb with you or those who are related to you by blood ties, it is also those that look out for you and be there by you no matter what.

      One can be born into a home where those who share the same blood with you will do everything possible to bring you down. Funny enough these days, family has become an avenue for competition and filled with rivalry. Thank God nothing like that in my family.

 Your family is that one who shares your pain, your doubt, your need, your love, your struggle. They are those who when you get messed up tell you, you fucked up and then help you clean the mess. When you meet this kind of people, know that they are one family that will be there through it all. You were not born of the same blood but adversities have made you brothers. You share this great bond you can’t imagine it any other way. Sometimes you even think that you rather die for this one than your blood brother.

Through the storms, the travails, the wars, you become inseparable, nothing can tear you apart because like true soldiers, you’ve been forged in the heat of war.

In all, no matter how strong we want the world to see us, everyone craves for a little love, a little attention. Where we earnestly find this is where we find our family, wherever you get it is where you have to accept it. That is the world for you.

     Your family might not care, but someone else will, give them the chance. Your family might hate and despise you but someone else will love and cherish you, embrace it. Life is too short to feel pity for the rest of one’s life, everything is an opportunity, even having a good family is an opportunity.

No one decided what family or race to be born to and inasmuch as we all expect the best, we all don’t get it.

Never focus on that thing that isn’t working, put all your energies into the things that you desire and is present in another one. Blood ties is not family ties, it’s way beyond that.
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